As people we can sure be the masters when it comes to excuses. We can think of a thousand reasons why something won’t work or why we may lack the time, resources, connections or training etc. We can blame it on the weather, the traffic, our lack of parenting, or out not so sunny personality. When it comes to excuses, we can all come up with one.
We can believe that our physical limitation or handicap is the real problem in life. Now, please don’t misunderstand me. I am not trying to minimize the difficulties and challenges in life. In many ways our excuses can be completely legitimate! We may lack the time or we may lack the money. We may lack the training, education or the opportunity or the right connections etc. We may have had terrible parenting or we may be struggling with a physical limitation. As a Life Coach I have heard some very sad and heartbreaking stories. So, I don’t want to minimize any of that; however, what I have experienced or observed is that despite the challenges, people who have achieved great things have done so because they didn’t make excuses or let limitations or challenges hold them back. What I have observed is that our excuses never ever really solve anything or advance us forward in our life. And, if we are not careful, our excuses can even become a permission slip not to take responsibility for much of anything.
It may be true that you don’t have time to look for another job, but the responsibility is still yours to take or figure out how to make that time when it comes to changing your life. The question becomes, what are you going to do about that and how will you make time for that? It may be true that you don’t have time to go to the gym or the money to pay for a membership. What other options are there for you besides the gym and what are you going to do about that? It may be true that Mr. Right hasn’t landed on your doorstep. Okay, but what are you going to do about that? It may be true that you have a slow metabolism and tend to gain weight easily. What will you do to find the diet would work with your body type, metabolism etc.? It may be true that you lack resources, finances etc. but what are you going to do about that? What kind of help will you seek? What additional work may you need?
As long as we have an excuse, we shut down possibilities. As a coach, I am interested in helping people get past the excuse and get into a solution minded mode. Just because they can’t see a way, doesn’t mean there isn’t a way somehow. If they don’t know, who might know.
I believe you are probably more resourceful than you realize and if you don’t know, who does? With the internet at our fingertips, we really have no excuse when it comes to information, resources etc.
If you can’t do it alone, who could help? More importantly, have you asked God for help? God has people and resources for you. If He can part the Red Sea and feed thousands with a few loves and fishes He can do the same for you. However, He will not do it for you. In the Bible, we read, “Ask, Seek and Knock and the door will be opened.” If you need a job, He expects you to do the “people thing” and go look for one and watch Him do the “God thing.”
The responsibility to change our life is in our court and if we will take the first move, things can and will change. As long as we excuse or blame nothing much ever changes.