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I have been singing the chorus of the Frozen movie’s song… “Let it Go.” Maybe that tells you a little about who I have been hanging out with lately! But in all sincerity I think the message of letting go is a powerful one. It certainly is for me right now because I have a lot of things spinning around in my personal life that are beyond my control. We all face those kinds of situations from time to time. Learning how to “let go” is not only important for staying on some kind of even keel but for having sanity as well. When we don’t let go, we end up trying to fix things, control things or even enable things that may not be ours to do.

It’s time for the serenity prayer…
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Knowing the difference is the operative word here. Knowing the difference between what I can change and what I cannot change is key. Not only a great prayer for sobriety, but a great way to live!

Henry Cloud in his book on Boundaries calls it a boundaries issue. He states that “confusion about responsibility or ownership in our lives is often related to boundaries. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins.”

When you and I are not clear where we end and someone else begins, our life gets cluttered and the boundary lines get fuzzy. We take on things that we do not need to take on. We say “yes” when we probably should say “no.” More importantly, we enable things that we may not need to enable. Knowing where I personally end and somewhere else begins is so very important.

Learning to let go of the things I am not able to change and to focus on what I can change seems like sound advice to me. It definitely seems to be the difference between living in the moment and enjoying your life or somewhere else. So for now, the Frozen song “Let it Go” works for me. Learning to savor the moment, let go and let God. I hope you will too!